Comments on: I’m Not Ready

By: Gillian Ong

Gillian Ong — Sat, 15 Jul 2017 02:51:24 +0000

Nicol, I’m engaged but I certainly am not ready for kids(or pregnancy, for that matter), but it seems that we in Chinese families face this sort of pressure from all sides :p. I did have the same thoughts that I wanted to be married by 26, but I still have a couple more years to sort out life before I take the big leap! That said, there is absolutely nothing wrong in putting yourself first. Good luck!

By: Yaya

Yaya — Mon, 03 Jul 2017 13:54:01 +0000

Great post! I have always been a bit of a type A personality, so I had my little life path set out … or so I thought. It didn’t pan out that way and each milestone that I had set was crossed very differently. I ended up meeting my other half at 27, am not technically married, and haven’t had a birth child of my own. Things have panned out so different to what I expected, and I wouldn’t want to have it any other way. It can be difficult when family seems to be shaming you all because of a sense of tradition. I am Mexican-American and my Mexican culture made me feel as though being in my mid 20’s and single was a sin! It’s all about valuing yourself and your life and doing what feels right for you. When you are ready, you will know. xx

By: Louise

Louise — Mon, 03 Jul 2017 12:06:14 +0000

When I was younger I said I never wanted kids, but now I have two and I absolutely adore them (even though they were both VERY unexpected). And I’ve always said I’d never get married, but hey, you never know! 🙂

Louise x

By: Lubka Henry

Lubka Henry — Sun, 02 Jul 2017 20:33:18 +0000

You know what I never dreamt of those things and wasn’t bothered until the time was right.
When you find the right person, you won’t fear taking those steps when the time is right.

By: brook clifton

brook clifton — Sun, 02 Jul 2017 20:16:34 +0000

What a good written and I love to read more about this. I feel the pressure with you and every girl dreamed of having a beautiful wedding

By: stephanie

stephanie — Sun, 02 Jul 2017 20:02:07 +0000

I’m in this phase and have no regrets. I’m so much happier living in the moment and enjoying my freedom x

By: Anosa

Anosa — Sun, 02 Jul 2017 18:14:13 +0000

I am from an african family so I can totally relate to people within your family talking about it being too late etc.
I will be 30 in 4 days and happy the way i am, yes I would have loved to be married and have kids by now but it didnt work out that way for me and thats ok. I have been traveling, doing my MSc and also focusing on my career too.
I believe it’s not yet my time

By: Ana De- Jesus

Ana De- Jesus — Sat, 01 Jul 2017 11:38:39 +0000

I think you should be able to have the freedom to do whatever you want but I do know what you mean. My background is Portuguese and they are quite traditional so they are always asking me when I am going to find someone lol. I mean I am only 23 and like you I am not ready. What will be will be x

By: Jemma @ Celery and Cupcakes

Jemma @ Celery and Cupcakes — Sat, 01 Jul 2017 08:35:29 +0000

I think a lot of people think like this at one time or another in their life. It’s a journey! It’s not selfish to put yourself first, as you said, it’s your life 🙂

By: Stephanie Cummings

Stephanie Cummings — Fri, 30 Jun 2017 20:48:24 +0000

Life is like a river it will carve it’s own path. You will work it out and it doens’t need to follow a set format we thought when we were younger. It doesn’t help when friends and family keep asking. I;ve always know marriage and kids are not for me and I refuse to even discus it when family ask, i just change the subject. It’s your life and they don’t need to know.

You’re young and have plenty of time for all the things you thought should happen still to happen x